According to Askmen. Sex is very pleasurable, but it’s not a race to the finish line. We all go into the encounter hoping for an incredible finale, but we really hope it takes a while to get there. Sex that comes and goes (so to speak) too fast is no fun for her and pretty mortifying for you. But what are surefire ways to last longer in bed“I realize that this a dilemma that most men have dealt with for since the beginning of time. 'Oh wait. Hold up... don't move...' is the signal that women have heard trying to explain why he can't last long enough to finish his 30-minute sitcom!” says award-winning adult performer and director Derrick Pierce.
And we all have our tricks, but for adult stars, they know the tricks of the trade (quite literally!) and have the best intel on how to last longer in bed.
Sex is mental — if you're too excited, you might come prematurely. So calm your mind! “It's OK to think about other things. Whatever it takes to get you to slow your mind down,” says Pierce.
“You are going to orgasm at some point. Yes, it feels good and I know you are excited, but slow your roll and let her have fun,” says Tanya Tate, award-winning performer, director and cosplayer.
We all know the moves and spot that feel the best, the key is to work our way up to them. And maybe even leave them and return later. “If you are really feeling like you are going to pop, switch it up. Don’t stay too long in a position that feels the best to you —- save that for last. You don’t need to do it 20 times, just change it up a few times and pleasure her orally in between, and she’ll think you are pro, not just delaying the inevitable,” says adult star Kelly Madison, who performs with her husband Ryan Madison for KellyMadison.com.
Slow And Steady
The best way to win the race is a steady start and a strong finish. Same can be said for great sex. “I've found that the best way to extend the sex is to extend the foreplay. Instead of just taking 5 minutes to get warmed up, take 20. Or an hour. Really tease each other. Get her off a couple times if she's multi-orgasmic. Then, once you actually get to the act of bumping uglies, it doesn't matter how long he lasts. And once that performance pressure is gone, well, that might be all he needs to keep it up for as long as he wants,” says Casey Calvert, adult performer and the official BDSM & fetish expert for GameLink.com.
It’s a good thing to be incredibly excited about who we are in bed with, but that excitement may get the better of us. “If you are two-pump Chuck, jack off prior to getting with your partner. Get the hair trigger calmed down so that you can enjoy the journey, not just get to the destination. Every time I think of this strategy I can’t help but laugh out loud when I think of the movie There's Something About Mary and that iconic scene with the hair gel,” says Madison. So let that be a lesson — and make sure you clean up well after your preparation.
“If you are going to pop and there is no amount of switch-up on positions or preparation that is going to save you, your only life line is to picture your grandmother in her underwear!” says Madison. That might be extreme, but thinking about other non-sexual topics or visuals can definitely calm you down.
Take A Break
While changing positions sometimes can help us from crossing the finish line too soon, there’s also changing course. “The key is switching things up right before the point of no return. If you're having sex and find yourself about to climax, just stop. Take a break. Focus your attention on pleasing your partner. Go back to making out, worship her with your hands,” says Jessica Drake,
Practice, Practice, Practice
The best way to find the moment right before it's "too late" is self-exploration, says Drake. “Masturbation! When you're enjoying some solo time, familiarize yourself with the feeling of almost being there and keeping yourself there without cumming. This practice is called "edging", and once you get the hang of that on your own, you can use it when you're with your partner,” says Drake.