Here’s how I made the man of my dreams obsess over me and BEG to commit to me forever…
After years of suffering, I finally figured out what makes a man eagerly devote himself and loyally commit to me using this unusual trick.
I used to be terrible with men. TERRIBLE. I just didn’t understand them. Picture the clueless, frustrated GAY MAN who always thinks he has a great connection with the guy he wants – only to be forced to watch him lose interest, pull away or disappear from his life forever. That was me.
It seemed to me that men only wanted handsome and muscular guys. Neither of those describes me so I just assumed I would spend my life alone or settle for than less than I deserve. I had one boyfriend who broke up with me because I was overly clingy. I was always afraid he would leave me and guess what… he did.
I remember watching men who really didn’t seem like anything special get high quality, successful, funny handsome men who were very obviously head-over-heels in love with them. Some of these men weren’t even good people…
Those men would be treated like royalty and meanwhile I would just suffer through the same pattern: Things would start out well with a guy, then soon enough he’d pull away, lose interest and leave… I couldn’t understand it.
I figured that all I would ever be to men was a “good short-term girlfriend”. I pretty much gave up on dating entirely…
…Until a random morning of searching the internet changed everything for me.
It was Sunday morning and I was terrified…
Once again, I had begun dating a man who I was really excited about – this finally seemed like the relationship I had been waiting for.
So I began to search out the best advice on what to do…But after we had been together for a while, I started seeing those familiar signs again that he was starting to pull away… and I was terrified I was going to lose him.
I would need to find a real expert.
Not someone who talked the talk but couldn’t walk the walk. I had to find someone who had it all. Someone who had a unique perspective on what men really wanted.
And then I found him.:
“If a man feels like you’re trying to get him into a relationship, 90% of the time his male defenses get activated.”
“He won’t consciously realize it, but his instincts will tell him that you are not “the one”, and he will feel an overwhelming urge to push for his “freedom”, “independence” and avoid connecting with you on an emotional level at all costs.”
He said: “A man will unconsciously start to feel like he’s under attack when you ‘try to get him into a relationship.’ It forces him to instinctually put his guard up, emotionally withdraw, and go cold… and it kills any chance for love to take hold in the relationship.”This must be why my man was pulling away. The more I tried the further it seemed I was from what I wanted.
“This is why when you want love the most, you unknowingly sabotage your chances with the man you really want. Before you know it, you find yourself desperately chasing his love…or worrying that he’s not fully invested in the relationship.”
It was as if a light bulb had gone off in my brain.
“When he sees you as ‘the one’, his ‘soul mate’, instead of worrying about having his ‘freedom’, he’ll feel like his life would be empty and meaningless without you.”
Make him invest in the relationship , men value what they make effort to get. we appreciate what we work hard for .Do not b the only one working hard hard in the relationship
“Instead of him wondering if he’s settling or if he could do better, he’ll know with total certainty that his search is finally over. That he’s finally complete.”
I finally knew what I had been doing wrong. I had been chasing after love… and unknowingly driving every man I wanted away. Instead, I had to make my man see me as ‘the one’ and he would chase after me because he saw me as his soulmate.
if feelings are not being reciprocated, don't beat yourself up