The prostate gland swells when it’s aroused which means that you’ll have more luck finding it, and more pleasure from it, if you are already turned on when you start looking.
Whether you’re alone or with a partner, do some other things first like rubbing your nipples, stroking your penis, or watching a little porn.
Start by putting some lube on your fingers and massaging the outside of the anus, then gradually slip one or two fingers inside. To find the P-spot the fingers should be pointing up (toward the belly button). Try curling them a little bit like you’re making the universal signal for “come here.” Like we said earlier, you might feel the prostate gland as a small bump.
Many men say that the first thing they notice when someone pushes on their P-spot is feeling like they have to pee. This makes sense because the prostate is so close to the bladder. Take it as a sign that you’re in the right place, and keep applying pressure, or start gently massaging
Great, but there are a few things that you might want to do before engaging in any kind of butt play.
We also just want to take a moment to remind you ladies that we’re about to talk about doing butt stuff, which can be an uncomfortable topic for a lot of people. It only gets weirder from here, so keep that in mind!
First, you want to make sure the area is clean as possible. You are least likely to come in contact with any feces if you’ve already gone to the bathroom that day (poop is only in the rectum when it’s on its way out).
So, take a shower — or better yet, a warm bath, because that can relax the muscles in the rectum as well.
If you’re doing this alone, also check on your fingers. You want your nails to be short and not at all sharp because the skin inside the anus is very delicate. Wash your hands to make sure you’re not introducing any germs to the anus.
And, check for any cuts on your fingers. Even after a nice soak in the tub there will be some germs in the rectum. (Obviously, if your partner is the one inserting fingers, the manicuring tasks fall on them.)
If you or your partner are still feeling a little squeamish, you can use latex gloves (or the non-latex version) that health care providers use, or try finger cots
You should also invest in some high-quality lube. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not lubricate itself when you get aroused and the skin is super-sensitive, so you really do need some help getting anything to slip in easil