The prostate gland is a sweet spot in the middle of the pelvis and produces part of the fluid (called seminal fluid) that comes out when a man cums. You can't touch the prostate directly, but it is possible to stimulate it indirectly, internally via anal stimulation and externally by applying pressure on the perineum.
Not all people with prostates enjoy having it stimulated. Like the g-spot, or any other part of the body, some people will find this stimulation interesting , some will find it boring, some may find it painful.
For example, people with enlarged prostates usually find that stimulation causes pain or discomfort , our special prostate massagers help you stimulate your prostate effectively
But for many, the prostate is a source of deep sexual pleasure. It's not particularly accurate, but some people have started calling the prostate the male g-spot while others have started referring to it as the P-spot. Either way, if you want to learn how to find and stimulate your own or someone else's prostate, here's a guide.
Wash Up and Relax
When it comes to putting anything up a bum a common concern and hesitation is about the possibility of coming into contact with feces. Having a warm bath or hot shower may help alleviate anxiety about this. It also helps to relax, which is an important state to be in for any sex play. A bath or shower can also be a great place to explore your own or your partner's body.
Smooth Out the Rough Edges
The lining of the anus is very sensitive and can be torn easily.
Make sure your nails are short and smooth. If you're playing with sex toys, make sure they are safe for anal penetration. Consider using latex or nitrile gloves. They are a good way to deal with hangnails and small cuts on your hands. Plus, if you have any concerns about cleanliness they provide a barrier between you and all your bodily fluids.
Turn Yourself On
Because the prostate swells when aroused, it’s easier to find when you’re hot and bothered. Watch an adult movie, masturbate, fantasize: whatever gets you in the mood. Unless the scientific approach is a turn on for you, trying to find the prostate in a dispassionate way is neither the best nor more enjoyable approach.
If you are exploring on your own, find a sex position you are most comfortable in where you have access to your bum. Try lying on your side, or squatting. Sitting in a comfy chair might work, or lie on your back with your legs in the air. You need a position you’ll be comfortable in for a while. Using pillows is always a good way to get comfortable.
From the Outside In
You never want to rush the penetration part of anal play. Start with an external massage. The perineum is located between the scrotum and the anus. Many people find that massaging the perineum is relaxing and pleasurable. You probably won't be able to feel the prostate with your fingers while massaging the perineum, but you are actually stimulating it indirectly. Massage the anus using a rhythmic, circular motion. You can gently push on the anus as if you're ringing a doorbell, without forcing your finger inside.
This will help relax the anal sphincter.
Go on In
When you are ready to insert a finger in the anus, try to tune into your breath. You can use conscious breathing techniques to deepen your awareness of physical responses. Make sure you have lots of lubricant on hand, literally and figuratively. The best way to insert a finger in the anus is to start with the pad of your finger first (not the tip). Gently put the pad of one finger up to the opening of the anus and leave it there while you breathe. When you are exhaling, push out as if you’re trying to go to the bathroom and you should feel your sphincter muscles relax a bit and your finger should be able to slide in. Once inside, rest a moment while you get used to the sensation of having something in your anus.
Finding the Prostate
You should be able to feel the prostate about two inches in and toward your belly.
It is often a walnut-shaped bump. Some men will know when they are touching it, others won’t notice much at all. It can be easier to have someone else find it for you (if you happen to have someone handy!)
Experiment with Different Kinds of Touch
Once you’ve found the prostate you can experiment with what feels good. Some people like the feeling of consistent pressure on the prostate, others prefer vibration or an on-off kind of pressure. You can also experiment by squeezing your PC muscle and see how that changes the feeling or trying out our toys
Using Sex Toys
Anal sex toys can be a great way to explore prostate stimulation. Toys that have a slight curve are often designed for prostate stimulation. Some toys will vibrate, which is a completely different kind of sensation that some guys like and others don’t. If you’re going to try a vibrator, be sure to get one with variable speed, so you can start slow if you want to