As a man ,do you routinely find yourself reaching climax sooner than you or your partner want?
Well practicing the edging technique during masturbation or sex can help you last longer in bed.
A lot of guys find that the edging method (also called the 'start-stop method'), is an excellent place to begin for addressing bedroom performance.
It’s a fairly easy exercise in which you take control over ejaculation just before you reach the brink of orgasm. Think of it simply as:
- Stimulate the penis as you would normally.
- Pull back when you get close to orgasm and stop all stimulation.
- Repeat over and over again.
This technique relies heavily on self-control. It’s up to you to know the right time to stop all sexual stimulation to take a short breather.
If you follow this step-by-step method, you will likely find that you can last longer with your partner than ever before.
How To Do The Start-Stop Method
Successful use of the start-stop method for ejaculation control requires you to get in touch with your body -- both literally and figuratively. It all begins with knowing the signs prior to ejaculation.
These signs may differ from one guy to the next; however, most guys will probably notice a distinct feeling of pressure building up in the genitals.
You may also feel a tightening of the pelvic floor muscles (the muscles you use when you want to stop peeing midstream) and the feeling of the testicles being pulled closer to the body.
For the best results, you may need to experiment a bit to figure out your unique signs and sensations. Many guys will find that masturbation is the perfect way to start using this technique.
The benefit of exploring this method on your own is that you will be better able to concentrate on what is going on in your body.
You won't have the stress of worrying about whether your sexual partner is having fun.
Once you become aware of the changes in your body just before you reach climax, you are ready to start edging.
Learning The Start-Stop Method On Your Own
Step 1: Time Block
Block out 30 minutes of time when you won't be disturbed. Get into bed and begin to masturbate as usual.
Start by maintaining a firm grip and steady rhythm, nothing too aggressive. Your goal is simply to build up the level of stimulation slowly.
Step 2: Recognize
When you start to recognize any of the indicators of climax, stop immediately.
In the beginning, it is better to err on the side of pausing too early rather than waiting until it is too late.
As you get more experienced, you can push the timing to the very edge—to the point of no return.
Step 3: HOLD!
Pause until the urge to climax completely goes away. This can take several seconds or as long as a minute, and that’s okay.
Don't resume masturbation, even if you notice a slight decrease in erection firmness. If it helps, try taking slow, deep breaths to calm yourself.
Step 4: Next Round
Once you feel like you’re in control, begin to masturbate again.
Try to repeat the above steps 4-5 times before finally allowing yourself to climax.
Don't feel frustrated if it takes multiple sessions before you are able to prevent yourself from reaching an orgasm immediately.
Step 5: Mastery
After numerous sessions, you'll probably begin to notice more prolonged periods between when you first get your erection and when you experience ejaculation.
If you find that you’re having trouble with the above, explore different masturbation techniques. For example, you might try masturbating without lube in order to reduce sensation.
Over time, you will learn to gain ejaculatory control and rediscover the plateau stage.
Using The Stop-Start Technique With A Partner
Step 1: Communicate
You will need to talk to your partner before trying the start-stop method during sex because they need to be an active participant in it.
Make sure your partner is completely supportive of the process before trying it with them.
Step 2: Teamwork
It is critical for both of you to take it slow from the beginning. Aggressive or intense foreplay may cause you to reach your limit early on. So, go easy.
At this point, you should also decide on a “safeword” or signal to indicate that you are on the verge of orgasm. This will let your partner know when to stop stimulation.
Step 3: Start Slow
Instead of jumping straight into intercourse, start by asking your partner to stimulate you manually.
For men with severe cases of PE, simply having your penis stroked by your partner may be enough to reach the point of no return.
If you feel like you are going to orgasm, use your signal to tell your partner to stop.
Step 4: Cool The Jets
Wait until the feeling goes away completely. Then ask your partner to continue to stimulate you by hand. Continue this process until you find you that you can last for a couple of minutes.
You shouldn't expect this to happen on the first try, so don't feel bad if it takes a while to get there.
This is a learning process. And if you climax sooner than you want, don't let that be the end of sex—pay attention to your partner’s needs, too, whether that means stimulating them by hand or with your mouth.
Final Stretch
Once you are able to last a few minutes with your partner stimulating you by hand, try moving on to other types of stimulation like oral, vaginal, or anal sex, depending on what you and your partner enjoy.
When you're using this method during sex, you can do a few different things during the "stop" portion.
Some men like to stop entirely and pull out. Others simply prefer to stop thrusting but keep their penis inside their partner. Yet others may continue with very slow and shallow thrusts.
Take it slow. Build up to more adventurous sex.
In the beginning, you can just have slow, gentle sex until you really feel in control.